Posts Categorized: Couples & Relationships

Coping with the Anxiety of IVF

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Research indicates that around 1 million babies were born in the United States between 1987 and 2015 through the use of IVF or other assisted reproductive technologies.  These procedures have given couples new hope; infertility and IVF treatments cause many psychological, emotional, and physiological stressors.  Given this, it is not surprising that men and women […]

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If You Are on The Fence About Counseling…

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Since becoming a counselor, it has continued to surprise me how many misconceptions there are out there about counseling and mental health care. In fact, one of the very first clients I ever had asked me if he had to lay down on a couch during sessions. I suppose it didn’t help matters any that […]

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How NOT to Talk to Someone With Anxiety

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It has been my experience that usually when we respond to those who are struggling, we are all trying our best to be as empathetic and kind as possible to our friends and loved ones. While our intentions are good, sometimes we don’t come off in a way that makes the other party feel validated […]

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What to Do When Feeling Defensive

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Defensiveness is a factor dealt with in many relationships, whether it be constant trouble or a road block you encounter every now and then. We see defensiveness when we try to talk to someone about our feelings, experience, or opinions and feel an almost immediate wall built between us or accusation thrown back at us. […]

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Be the Change You Want to See In Your Communication

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A common issue that I encounter in my work as a counselor is communication problems. Most of the time we think of communication problems being exclusive to couples or marital counseling, but the reality is communication problems can be a factor in all manner of concerns. Having difficulty communicating can be a contributing factor of […]

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Giving the Gift of Validation

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Validation is important because it communicates I hear you, I see you, and I care. When experienced from others it can feel like you have received the gift of acceptance and feeling understood. This is what makes learning the art of validation so important. It is an important skill that increases healthy communication with others, […]

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3 Reasons for Premarital Counseling

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Often when you find that special person that you are ready to marry ‘until death do you part,’ you’ll have plenty of input from others. Many of your friends and family will be telling you what they think of your future spouse and giving you advice on what not to do in your marriage. Although […]

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“I’m Not Yelling, You’re Yelling”: Top 5 Tips to Managing Conflict with Your Partner

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Contrary to popular belief, conflict within a relationship is healthy. Conflict allows us to express our inner concerns and/or feelings and often leads to positive resolution. How you handle that conflict, however, typically results in one of two ways: bringing people together or tearing people apart.  Poor communication, lack of respect and defensiveness makes conflict […]

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Surviving Your Partner’s Depression

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If your partner is suffering from depression, you may be feeling helpless, overwhelmed, frustrated and confused.  Trying to help may have left you feeling rejected, ignored or alone.  Your depressed partner needs love and support, but you alone cannot reverse the depression. Clinical depression is a mood disorder that negatively impacts the depressed person’s thinking, […]

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Cultivating Wholehearted Living

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Are you looking for more joy and happiness in your life?  Do you sometimes struggle looking for meaning and purpose?  Are you going through a transition and attempting to reevaluate priorities?  Do you want to create a life worth living but don’t know where to begin?  Then you may benefit from learning to live Wholeheartedly! […]

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