Posts Categorized: Couples & Relationships

The Struggle is Real: Sex

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The beginning of a romantic relationship, and often the “honeymoon” stage of a marriage, abounds with passion. A person feels “butterflies” when near their partner, their thoughts turn to their partner frequently and with a daydream-like quality, they just want to be with their partner, talk with their partner, and touch their partner. Over time, […]

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The Struggle is Real: Marriage Expectations

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It seems no one has “Rose Colored Glasses” quite to the degree as couples who are engaged or “Just Married”! If they could bottle up those emotions and sell them, I think we would have a lot of “love addicts.” What those couples are going through is a powerful cocktail of unconscious connection, conscious attraction, […]

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PTSD and Intimate Partner Violence (Excerpt from PTSD Monthly Update from the US Dept. of VA)

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Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) refers specifically to violence and aggression between intimate partners. IPV can include physical, sexual or psychological abuse or stalking. In the United States, about 1 in 4 women (or 27%) and 1 in 10 men (or 11%) report having been harmed by sexual or physical violence, or by stalking by an […]

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No Longer Wanting to Die (excerpt from New York Times)

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No Longer Wanting to Die By Will Lippinscott New York Times – May 16, 2015 After decades of therapy and in patient hospitalization, Mr. Lippincott describes his experience of being suicidal and how dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) gave him an effective set of skills “that have been nothing short of transformative”.  The Summit’s DBT Program […]

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After “I Do”

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Whether you’ve been married 5 months or 25 years, every couple has its disagreements and conflicts. Merging two different personalities is no easy task. From finances and in-laws to communication and sex, there are hurdles every couple has to cross. Dealing with these issues early can keep the relationship on better footing. And the benefits […]

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Reaching Out to Estranged Family Members

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Relationships of all kinds are messy. In a friendship or a dating relationship, we simply “break up”. It’s painful but since we have rarely have to see the person, it’s easier to move on. In families, this looks completely different. When a familial relationship gets cut off for whatever reason, it never really goes away. […]

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4 Dangerous Communication Patterns

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(That Likely Indicate a Need for Couples Counseling.) Arguments happen in all marriages, in fact, they are necessary.  Conflicts often arise because of financial stresses, parenting issues and misunderstandings. Couples must face these daily disagreements in order to operate and function effectively.  However, there are forms of negativity in arguments that have been found to be more destructive or corrosive to […]

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It’s Staring Back at You

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“What we do in life echoes in eternity!” This declaration, made by the character General Maximus Decimus Meridius, is intensely depicted in the motion picture Gladiator (2000).  I have watched this movie over and over and I am still intrigued.  What fierce costumes, desperate acts of courage, and disturbed versus heroic characterizations of human beings. […]

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Stuck On Wide Open: The Hidden Dangers of Emotional Dysregulation

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Emotional regulation, or the ability to manage one’s emotions, is perhaps the most dramatically visible and the prototypical feature of human personality. Many people appear to be mostly in command of their emotions at critical moments, while others appear to be particularly (and sometimes explosively) reactive to environmental and interpersonal challenges. In general, affective or […]

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