Posts Categorized: Couples & Relationships

After “I Do”

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Whether you’ve been married 5 months or 25 years, every couple has its disagreements and conflicts. Merging two different personalities is no easy task. From finances and in-laws to communication and sex, there are hurdles every couple has to cross. Dealing with these issues early can keep the relationship on better footing. And the benefits […]

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Reaching Out to Estranged Family Members

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Relationships of all kinds are messy. In a friendship or a dating relationship, we simply “break up”. It’s painful but since we have rarely have to see the person, it’s easier to move on. In families, this looks completely different. When a familial relationship gets cut off for whatever reason, it never really goes away. […]

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4 Dangerous Communication Patterns

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(That Likely Indicate a Need for Couples Counseling.) Arguments happen in all marriages, in fact, they are necessary.  Conflicts often arise because of financial stresses, parenting issues and misunderstandings. Couples must face these daily disagreements in order to operate and function effectively.  However, there are forms of negativity in arguments that have been found to be more destructive or corrosive to […]

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It’s Staring Back at You

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“What we do in life echoes in eternity!” This declaration, made by the character General Maximus Decimus Meridius, is intensely depicted in the motion picture Gladiator (2000).  I have watched this movie over and over and I am still intrigued.  What fierce costumes, desperate acts of courage, and disturbed versus heroic characterizations of human beings. […]

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Stuck On Wide Open: The Hidden Dangers of Emotional Dysregulation

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Emotional regulation, or the ability to manage one’s emotions, is perhaps the most dramatically visible and the prototypical feature of human personality. Many people appear to be mostly in command of their emotions at critical moments, while others appear to be particularly (and sometimes explosively) reactive to environmental and interpersonal challenges. In general, affective or […]

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Engagement – NOT The Ring-Giving Kind!

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When we hear the word “engagement” in the context of a marriage relationship, we usually think about that memorable occassion where a guy gives a girl a ring to start the whole matrimonial process!  But what happens when the couple gets “engaged,” gets married, gets on with life, has a house and 2.3 children???  Are […]

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Getting a Divorce? Helpful Tips and Guidelines to Assist Your Kids

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There can be such upheaval, emotional and physical, during the process of divorce for all family members. Here are some tips to assist your family and your kids, as you process and adjust to your new reality, and work to move forward in a positive way. 1. It is so important that kids have predictable […]

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A Quick and Easy Technique to Improve Marital Communication

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Do the arguments between you and your spouse quickly disintegrate into a heated battle without any chance of reaching a win/win conclusion?  Check to make sure that a harsh start up is not dooming you to failure.  A harsh start up is when you or your spouse begins a discussion with a harsh or critical statement. This statement […]

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How Good Arguments Are Good For Your Health and Can Save Your Marriage

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What makes a good marriage last? According to the best evidence provided by case studies and well-documented research (most prominent that of Dr. John Gottman), the best chances of success are within marriages where the spouses can provide a safe haven for each other and a secure base from which to face the world together. […]

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