Posts Tagged: Relationships

Practice Gratitude to Protect Marriage

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The guaranteed stresses of life cause high emotional intensity between marriage partners that often lead to hurtful exchanges. These hurtful exchanges can, unfortunately, lead to a gridlock of anger and disconnection.  So, how do marriages last and thrive when life is not always easy? In countless research studies, it has been found that the difference […]

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Giving the Gift of Validation

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Validation is important because it communicates I hear you, I see you, and I care. When experienced from others it can feel like you have received the gift of acceptance and feeling understood. This is what makes learning the art of validation so important. It is an important skill that increases healthy communication with others, […]

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The Poverty of Pity

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As someone who holds a bachelor’s degree in English Literature, I’m very aware of how tricky words can be. For instance, pity is often used synonymously with the term compassion, but the two couldn’t be any more different.  Compassion is what keeps the counseling profession alive while pity kills friendships, marriages, families, and communities. Having […]

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The Art of Skill Building

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Before becoming a Licensed Professional Counselor, I spent some time working as a behavior aid at school specifically for students with an Autism Spectrum Disorder diagnosis. One of the lessons that stuck with me from that experience is that learning a new skill was often best learned when not experiencing the situation/stressor. An example of […]

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How To Talk To Your Kids About Going To Therapy

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There are many different ways a child becomes one of my clients: I’ve had kids google therapists, print out my profile, and ask their parent to schedule an appointment with me, often times families are referred, or maybe the front office staff directed them to me; either way, one thing I always want to know […]

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Make It Positive

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Often times when I’m meeting with parents for the first time to discuss therapy for their child, parents feel desperate for help and change as soon as possible, yet they understand that even with therapy it will take time before they notice any changes. Parents often ask me, “Is there anything I can do in […]

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“I’m Not Yelling, You’re Yelling”: Top 5 Tips to Managing Conflict with Your Partner

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Contrary to popular belief, conflict within a relationship is healthy. Conflict allows us to express our inner concerns and/or feelings and often leads to positive resolution. How you handle that conflict, however, typically results in one of two ways: bringing people together or tearing people apart.  Poor communication, lack of respect and defensiveness makes conflict […]

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You Are Enough

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“You are enough” is one of my most loved and most hated phrases. On the one hand, it can be very assuring. It can be the phrase that keeps you from comparing yourself to other people, especially unrealistic images we see in the media. On the other hand, it can be a phrase that is […]

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Surviving Your Partner’s Depression

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If your partner is suffering from depression, you may be feeling helpless, overwhelmed, frustrated and confused.  Trying to help may have left you feeling rejected, ignored or alone.  Your depressed partner needs love and support, but you alone cannot reverse the depression. Clinical depression is a mood disorder that negatively impacts the depressed person’s thinking, […]

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Anxiety: What to Do and Not Do

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Anxiety seems to be a common word I hear at every age with my clients. It seems to be increasing in children, and adolescents. For parents I understand that sometimes it can be tricky navigating what to do and not to do.  Every child is different and as parents know what works for one child […]

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