The Power of Self Compassion
It is normal to make mistakes or engage in behaviors that elicit guilt or shame from time to time. Practicing self-compassion during these times can be a crucial skill that helps you learn from a mistake. Finding compassion for yourself during these moments will help you build resilience and have healthy self-esteem.
Look at the below tips for practicing self-compassion:
- Talk to yourself like you’d talk to friend struggling with a problem or difficult emotion
- Accept yourself as you are
- Validate your emotion
- Think about how you’d want to speak to the 10-year-old version of you and do that.
For example, we don’t want to tell a 10-year old they’re “terrible” for spelling a word wrong at the spelling bee because they didn’t study. We’d say, “You did the best you could in that moment given the situation.”
- Acknowledge mistakes but remind yourself that you are human. If possible, you can make a plan to do things different in the future.
- Remove judgments and absolutes. Be gentle with your language and stick to the facts instead
- Use encouraging statements with yourself!
Tell yourself “you are enough.”
- Treat yourself the way you treat someone you love
- Practice forgiving yourself for mistake and perceived flaws
- Identify strengths you have and remind yourself of them. Balance your weaknesses with strengths.
If you or someone you love is struggling with reoccurring negative self-talk or thinking, we’re here to help. Consider making an appointment with The Summit Counseling Center by calling 678-893-5300 or via our website.