How to Talk to Your Teen – Part 1

Written by: Stephen Walters, M.Div., M.A.

So far in 2025, I have been giving parents some tips on how to talk to their teens. I mentioned that I now have a teenager and that communication changes as our kids age. I want to help parents have tips to talk to their teens. So, I thought I would do the reverse. So, here are some tips for teens that need to talk to their parents.

1. Be Honest. Your parents know more than you think they do. They’ve experienced more than you think they have. They also know more about you than you expect. So, be honest with them. If you need something, ask them. If you’re apologizing for something, be honest about it. Trust me, true news you don’t want to hear is way better than a lie that sounds nice.
2. Practice Active Listening. This is the same for your parents. Active listening is when you hear what the other person says, repeat back what they said, and make sure you didn’t miss anything before you respond. Listen to what your parents are telling you, repeat it back, then express your concern/opinion. This can stop a lot of arguments based on misunderstanding.
3. Timing is Everything. Pick the right spot. When your parents are finishing an argument with a sibling, isn’t the right time. When your parents have just walked in from work, maybe give them a minute to be adjusted to being home. Life circumstances do not have to be perfect, just use some thought and judgement when you need to discuss something or make a request.

Ok teens, hopefully this helps. Check back soon for some more tips. And, parents, if you are the one reading this and relaying to your teens, make sure you give them credit for trying!

Always remember, if you having a hard time talking to each other, or need to work on other aspects of relating as a family, we here at The Summit are ready and able to help! Let us know how we can assist you all.