Couples & Relationships

Reaching Out to Estranged Family Members
December 17, 2014

Relationships of all kinds are messy. In a friendship or a dating relationship, we simply “break up”. It’s painful but since we have rarely have to see the person, it’s easier to move on. In families, this looks completely...

4 Dangerous Communication Patterns
November 20, 2014

(That Likely Indicate a Need for Couples Counseling.) Arguments happen in all marriages, in fact, they are necessary.  Conflicts often arise because of financial stresses, parenting issues and misunderstandings. Couples must face these daily disagreements in order to operate and function effectively.  However, there...

Discernment Counseling for Couples on the Brink of Divorce
December 23, 2013

A common scenario in marriage therapy is what has been termed the “mixed agenda couple:” one partner desperately wants to work on and save the marriage, while the other partner is ready to call it quits and file for...

It’s Staring Back at You
October 25, 2012

“What we do in life echoes in eternity!” This declaration, made by the character General Maximus Decimus Meridius, is intensely depicted in the motion picture Gladiator (2000).  I have watched this movie over and over and I am still...

Stuck On Wide Open: The Hidden Dangers of Emotional Dysregulation
May 2, 2012

Emotional regulation, or the ability to manage one’s emotions, is perhaps the most dramatically visible and the prototypical feature of human personality. Many people appear to be mostly in command of their emotions at critical moments, while others appear...

Engagement – NOT The Ring-Giving Kind!
September 17, 2011

When we hear the word “engagement” in the context of a marriage relationship, we usually think about that memorable occassion where a guy gives a girl a ring to start the whole matrimonial process!  But what happens when the...

Getting a Divorce? Helpful Tips and Guidelines to Assist Your Kids
March 31, 2011

There can be such upheaval, emotional and physical, during the process of divorce for all family members. Here are some tips to assist your family and your kids, as you process and adjust to your new reality, and work...

All Arguments are not Created Equal
February 9, 2011

Arguments happen in all marriages, in fact they are necessary.  Conflicts  may arise because of  financial stresses, parenting issues and misunderstandings. Couples must face these daily disagreements in order to operate and function effectively.  However, there are forms of negativity in arguments that have been...

A Quick and Easy Technique to Improve Marital Communication
January 31, 2011

Do the arguments between you and your spouse quickly disintegrate into a heated battle without any chance of reaching a win/win conclusion?  Check to make sure that a harsh start up is not dooming you to failure. A harsh...

How Good Arguments Are Good For Your Health and Can Save Your Marriage
January 26, 2011

What makes a good marriage last? According to the best evidence provided by case studies and well-documented research (most prominent that of Dr. John Gottman), the best chances of success are within marriages where the spouses can provide a...